Imagine

Imagine that there are this two persons in your life.

A perfect person with complete package that you couldn't wish for more. He's good looking, he sends you flower when he's out station, he would cook for you and give you surprises. Call you to make you feel secure and perfect gentlemen. You feel warm and protected with this person. Everything that a girl would dream for. A prince on a white horse in our fairy tales.

And,

An ordinary person with plain looks and nothing much. But whenever you see this person, you feels some chemistry going on. You don't know what happen but there's always sparks and fireworks. The sparks will somehow be there no matter how long you all didn't see each other. Ppl called it butterflies in the stomach. But, this person do not fight for you to be with him though he loves you.

Now, who would you choose?

The first person is irresistible, the second is enchanting.

I gave a deep thought of this myself. And my answer would be, if you want a perfect marriage, you choose the first person. A person who can protect you for the rest of your life though he might not be the one you love the most. It's sad to realize sometimes marriage and love dont comes along. Often, I heard ppl telling me that the person you married will never be the person you love the most. When I was younger, I dont understand. But I think I start to understand this now. Two person who love each other too much expect too much toleration from each other. They expect because they know the person they love would do this for them. They expect, it's pretty normal. How can we live without expecting? It's just like how can you live without expecting the Sun will rise tmr. It's nature. And because of this nature, they can't make it. Ended up, we married a person who we may not love the most, but love him as a husband. Adore him as a life partner. Appreciate him for his pampered and protection. Love in a way not how we used to fell in our first love. So madly, so vulnerable. Never again, because we don't expect that much from this husband as we know some place in our heart, maybe just a tiny place, we had leave it for another person, for the rest of our life.

But if you wanted love, choose the second person. You risk. You risk for a duration, a years, two years, 5 years or 10 years till the sparks no longer exist anymore. You're betting on when this sparks will comes to an end. But of course, the sparks, the chemistry is priceless. There could be a million persons out there whom can appear as a prince charming but it would not be easy to meet a person who you both share the same chemistry. It's just like you can be any Lamborghini and feel happy seating in it. But it's hard to find a carriage which makes you feel like Cinderella. An ordinary person who can makes you feel in a way you never felt before then this person is actually not that ordinary anymore. It doesn't matter whether this person is how imperfect but because of the feeling they gave you, you could never forgot, and this feeling is just right to make this person perfect enough to stay in your heart. It's true that you can forgot how a person look, you can forgot where and when, you can forgot what are you doing at that moment but the feeling they gave you, you can never erase it. This second person is the person that would stay in a tiny space of your heart forever if you be with the first person.